How Do You Balance Self-Respect with Compassion? Don’t We Have to Give Selflessly out of Love?

Q: How do you balance “self-respect” with compassion? Don’t we sometimes have to “give” selflessly out of love? A: Great questions, let’s explore them. First, know that to love ourselves and have self-respect does not necessary entail being stereotypically ‘selfish’ or otherwise non-compassionate. The point is to simply only extend compassion if it is genuine. If it genuinely brings us joy and is what we want in the moment, then being compassionate, kind, and considerate of others is completely in alignment with loving ourself, because after all it is in fact what we want. We should always only do what we …

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Being Honest with Ourselves

With an understanding of projection let us now explore applications of this new found awareness. Since everything is purely subjective and within us this means that literally we are the only ones who decide how we feel in every moment. This means that all love, happiness, fulfillment, contentment, and satisfaction in life is purely up to us and only us. There is no thing or person who can actually make us happy, feel loved, or right. It is only our own choice. Out of inspiration provided from recent discussions with friends, the following may be useful guidance pertaining to remembering …

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Past and Future – Remembering What is Real

The Illusion of Time A concept that has finally hit me after months of studying it is: Now is the only moment that is actually real. Everything else is simply a thought stemming from now and thus an illusory mental fabrication. The past and the future only exist within our minds. I’ve read this idea over and over again and it didn’t really sink in until recently. I want to take you through my thoughts on this concept and share with you what I realized in hopes that it might help others understand because I believe once we understand it, it will …

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Learning to Love Ourselves

  Loving ourselves is the most important aspect of all psychological and physical healing and personal growth. However, remembering/learning to love ourselves can ironically be one of the most difficult things to do in our life. Loving ourselves was intended to be the most natural and easiest thing for us to do and yet our conditioning and culture has taught us otherwise, in fact many believe that it is natural to not love ourselves! Think about how all advertising works, for example, making us feel incomplete and imperfect without whatever it is they’re trying to sell. The consumer culture breeds …

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World Peace is Possible

I’d like to start this post off with an amazing speech that was given after learning of the death of Martin Luther King Jr. in 1968 by Robert Kennedy (click on the title if you’d like to listen to it be delivered, Bobby is an inspiring orator) “Mindless Menace of Violence” “This is a time of shame and sorrow. It is not a day for politics. I have saved this one opportunity, my only event of today, to speak briefly to you about the mindless menace of violence in America which again stains our land and every one of our …

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The Concept of the Ego

The first and technically only road block that arises in our path to enlightenment, personal growth, happiness, and fulfillment in our lives is called ego thinking(aka, shadow, “evil”, persona, false self, etc.) The ego is a mindset, a type of thinking, that gives us the thoughts, feelings, and thus circumstances of separateness, fear, powerlessness, and lack in our life. The reason why ego thinking is so important to address, understand, and transcend is because it is the only true barrier to the amazing power that we possess within ourselves. Also it is the only thing stopping us from experiencing endless …

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