How Do You Balance Self-Respect with Compassion? Don’t We Have to Give Selflessly out of Love?

Q: How do you balance “self-respect” with compassion? Don’t we sometimes have to “give” selflessly out of love? A: Great questions, let’s explore them. First, know that to love ourselves and have self-respect does not necessary entail being stereotypically ‘selfish’ or otherwise non-compassionate. The point is to simply only extend compassion if it is genuine. If it genuinely brings us joy and is what we want in the moment, then being compassionate, kind, and considerate of others is completely in alignment with loving ourself, because after all it is in fact what we want. We should always only do what we …

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Being Honest with Ourselves

With an understanding of projection let us now explore applications of this new found awareness. Since everything is purely subjective and within us this means that literally we are the only ones who decide how we feel in every moment. This means that all love, happiness, fulfillment, contentment, and satisfaction in life is purely up to us and only us. There is no thing or person who can actually make us happy, feel loved, or right. It is only our own choice. Out of inspiration provided from recent discussions with friends, the following may be useful guidance pertaining to remembering …

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